tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post2578254577629745000..comments2023-10-20T20:40:51.384+08:00Comments on www.ezralimm.com: "Creeped"ezralimmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-92185593722164325512010-06-14T01:17:25.304+08:002010-06-14T01:17:25.304+08:00Having read your posts I feel (may not have been y...Having read your posts I feel (may not have been your intention) that you seem to be objectifying love. At least that's the way its coming across to the reader. Like you know, putting a scientific spin on something that traditionally, science cannot comprehend. It makes people (including myself) uncomfortable because that's not how we like to go about handling issues of the heart. And to be quite objective, we'll never ever know if the school of thought you subscribe to is the right one or not. Are you going to run an RCT to prove your point? Haha. Wouldn't think so.<br /><br />Personally, I think you're an ok-looking guy. A little scrawny (still) but not too bad. If I speak to you and you're a nice guy (I'm clueless about this) I would go out with you. Many of my girlfriends think you look fair enough and would go out with you too. I guess that's what you mean by creating more options for yourself by bettering your image - they wouldn't have gone out with you in the past because of your looks back then. <br /><br />However, having read your blog - I wouldn't go out with you. Neither would any of my girlfriends. Even if you were a nice guy. And it's all because of the simple fact that we don't agree with the way you approach love. Once again, bear in mind that this doesn't mean you're wrong - it's just that you're not conventional and we find comfort in the familiar. But what it does probably indicate is that sometimes, somethings are better kept to yourself. You improve your image to create more options for yourself, but the content of your posts tarnishes that image and closes off some options. So effectively, while you've covered some ground, you've lost some ground as well! (Sorry I really didn't intend to be all egoistic and assume I'm some hot chick everybody wants to date but you get my drift)<br /><br />In my opinion, you would have achieved a lot more by just working on your image while keeping your thoughts on how you should approach love to yourself. I can't imagine any girl coming to your blog and reading your posts and be ok with you dating them afterwards. I might very well be wrong but I just think that it's highly unlikely. The stuff you say just makes us (me and my group of girlfriends, 8 of us) all very annoyed and gets all of us thinking - who does this guy really think he is?!<br /><br />Debates all stem from a difference in opinions and it's very clear that while you stand firm in what you believe in, other's don't. Are they right and you wrong? I don't think so. But neither does that make your opinions right and theirs wrong. That said, I must commend you for your honesty and bravery to state what you believe in and defend it when it comes under fire but yeah, I don't see eye to eye on you on several issues.<br /><br />Still, I wish you the very best in your pursuit of happiness. Take care.Monash meddienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-33543777219215183482010-06-13T19:35:00.231+08:002010-06-13T19:35:00.231+08:00Monash meddie (MM), heya nice to know some of my p...<b>Monash meddie (MM)</b>, heya nice to know some of my peers are visiting this website...regularly I might add ;-)<br /><br />In my quest for truth, I have stepped on more toes than I would have liked, and while a poll is a good idea, an anonymous online poll is not the way to go.<br /><br />The response to my comments both in this blog and in the real world; with regards to my observations in the game of love/life; have been varied. Im sure some people took offence to those statements (even in the real world) - though the responses received were markedly different from those received anonymously online. A post about this apparent discrepency has already been drafted some time ago and should be out within a month or two.<br /><br />Note that <b>Creeped</b> was posted way back in March 2009.<br /><br /><b>I have received alot of support from my friends and family and for that I am very thankful. That is the real reason why I dont care about anonymous hateful comments online. </b><br /><br />Since early 2009, my circle of friends has been steadily growing but more importantly, close friendships have developed. How many people would come to my aid if I were to break a leg? The number has been steadily rising. <br /><br />The above would have never happened if I had not realized what I did. The importance of thriving in life - physically, emotionally, and socially. You may not believe me, but <b>I speak with confidence when I say that physical wellbeing is a great catalyst to emotional and social wellbeing.</b><br /><br />After working on my physical wellbeing, I naturally found myself being more empathic. Just as important was the fact that other people (boys and girls alike) seemed to have greater interest in talking with me. It's hard to explain and I know it sounds absolutely shallow...but it's true! I mix with many people in the halls from all races - and this applies to everyone!<br /><br />When I speak of my frank observations about how looks can determine the amount of attention a person gets, people tend to be offended. This is understandable - not everyone were Jocks/prom Queens in high school. Many people tell themselves that things like raw physical wellbeing has not much to do with personality and attractiveness...to feel good about themselves.<br /><br />I bluntly commented otherwise (both in the real world and online) and understandably received alot of flak for it.<br /><br /><b>I did detect some antagonism and indifference from some members of our MBBS 2011 cohort after making some comments way back in 2008, but on the other hand, I also did receive alot of support from other members of our cohort. A few even contacted me in confidence to voice support as it had helped motivate themselves for self improvement.</b><br /><br />If you believe I am being shallow so be it I dont care. What I am is irrelevant to the reality that I am trying to blog about. There are winners and losers in life. There are Jocks and there are Nerds. There are prom queens and the ugly betty's. <b>I am not passing judgment on anyone... just commenting on reality.</b> I am NOT saying nerds and Ugly Betty's cant be happy.<br /><br />The issue of the value of physical wellbeing and attractiveness in the game of life is at the end of the day a very contentious one.<br /><br />Do read <a href="http://ezralimm.blogspot.com/2008/12/pleasure-principle_24.html" rel="nofollow">The Pleasure Principle</a>. Especially the last part of it that applies to my experience dealing with people.<br /><br />I did find your post rather insightful. There are some things I cannot say online and I would like to have a chat with you someday. Give me a tick in real life if we should meet. Nothing like a chat over a hot cup of Java =)<br /><br /><b>Pokerbuddy</b>, I'll be responding to many issues you raised in your comments in an upcoming post that has already been drafted. Stay tuned.ezralimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-27090234979353956972010-06-13T15:04:55.564+08:002010-06-13T15:04:55.564+08:00Hey Ezra, I'm one of your course mates over at...Hey Ezra, I'm one of your course mates over at Monash.<br /><br />To be honest, I don't know you very well and the only reason why I came to your blog was that I've heard from the others that it's incredibly ridiculous. <br /><br />Now, I'm not here to criticise you on the content of your entry/ entries nor am I here to judge you based on your opinions. I was just wondering how much social awareness you think you have - do you think you are more popular now (among both guys and girls)? do you think you are in a better position to interact effectively (with both genders again)? Etc. I'm sure you understand that there are no right/ wrong answers to these questions and neither am I expecting you to prove anything by answering these. I'm just curious.<br /><br />Frankly, the general consensus (at least the people around me) think you're a dick/ prick. I'm undecided because I don't think it's fair for me to judge you without actually getting to know you on a deeper level. You might get off by arguing that these people don't matter, but when close to 30-40 people think that there is something wrong with you, chances are there IS something wrong with you. Maybe it's a good time to do a popularity poll and find out what's going on - are you REALLY achieving as much as you perceive yourself to be? <br /><br />Speaking to your peers (not just friends!) and asking for honest feedback would probably help you gauge how far you've come since you've implemented your changes. 30-40 people might be prejudiced against you, but it's still a number large enough to raise some causes for concern!<br /><br />Cheers mate.Monash meddienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-16448651763923912252010-06-09T14:19:12.632+08:002010-06-09T14:19:12.632+08:00Props to Pokerbuddy for bothering to write lol.
I...Props to <b>Pokerbuddy</b> for bothering to write lol.<br /><br />Im kinda busy atm... will reply over coming week. Recommend subscribe by email for notification. cheers.ezralimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-77501609832748634872010-06-09T12:28:54.144+08:002010-06-09T12:28:54.144+08:00Lol... the resurrection of a 2009 post. This calls...Lol... the resurrection of a 2009 post. This calls for a WTF!<br />Can't be bothered with the rest of the reading list you posted on Game of love.<br /><br />A few things I've noticed given the timelapse... one thing hasn't changed about you Ezra. You tend to hide behind the... "I don't blog about my personal life because people can trace me and the girls can read what I write" each time somebody calls to question results of your theory. Might want to work on that.<br /><br />Be it Michael Chu or Anon or Kikilala or HK guy, I think the general consensus is that you're a Dick. Now I'm NOT saying that you are one - (because you tend to jump to conclusions yourself; that being said, I'm also not saying that you're not a dick either), but I think their comments suffice to adequately summize that first preception you give people after you open your piehole. [Bla bla bla - stuff about people who really know me and understand my POV and what color corn I like.] I'm assuming you like to be abused since this is the longest running thread and its all pretty much about calling you (your thoughts and opinions as well) a dick. Not exactly what I would call a "Hot Topic" if most of the posts are about calling out that you're a dick for whatever reasons and you whining about people judging you. [Bla Bla bla... more stuff about people not knowing what they are talking about yet entitled to their opinion]<br /><br />On Superficiality:<br />No Issues with you there. You wanna go to the gym, comb your hair, wax your scrotum... go on ahead. Great to make a first impression before the mouth opens.<br />Kakami pretty much got the BMI stuff under wraps. I kept thinking how funny would it be to have that as a pick up line, "Hey baby, I got a BMI of 19. Lets Fuck" Hahahahahahaha.... <br /><br />On Being Alpha:<br />Whatever Ganesh said. Fact of the matter is you won't get many Alphamales commenting on your post since they pretty much think they are the shits and don't really care what anyone unrelated thinks. Again, props to Ganesh for bothering to write.<br /><br />On talking dirty and being vulgar:<br /><br />On Girls prefering Short, fat, Tall, Extra long nose hair, Mono-eyebrow, Hung like a Donk:<br />Girls just want a man that don't wear fairy dresses on weekends and have pedicure parties after the game. Your theory on that preference is as valid as a Leprechaun wearing a Easterbunny suit crawling down nonexistant chimneys to give kids a gold coin for their tooth. Losers will always try to find an excuse (fat/ thin/ looks etc) to explain their failure in women, and unfortunately this is more prevelant in the Asian society. Ask any girl - its nothing to do with that. Bet you girls wished more guys had game when asking them out. Michael Chu's a classic example: - GF thought he was a loser but still ended up with him.<br />I personally pity the girls for having the need to put up with such low quality game, but it certainly makes life easier for people like Ganesh.<br /><br />Enough. I'm hungry and I gotta get some grub cause I've lost my train of thought. <br />Don't miss me while I'm gone and remember to put on your favourite colour lipstick before you start bitching again.Pokerbuddyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14492391386817077166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-13040149334418800112010-06-08T21:04:42.618+08:002010-06-08T21:04:42.618+08:00Note: Anonymous comments from the same IP have bee...Note: Anonymous comments from the same IP have been deleted.ezralimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-37452947868441514032010-06-08T20:26:00.948+08:002010-06-08T20:26:00.948+08:00Ganesh, thanks for your contribution to this threa...<b>Ganesh,</b> thanks for your contribution to this thread. I really appreciate your comments and I will be replying or touching on many of the things you are saying in a future post (it's already in draft so im not going to reply here).<br /><br /><b>+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++</b><br /><br /><b>I DONT SPY/STALK ANYONE</b> Due to the number of Anonymous comments, I mentioned that because the comment was traced to HK. Other comments were from Aust/Msia. So that way the person knows im replying to him/her. You could help too by using a pseudonym (not your real name)!<br /><br /><b>+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++</b><br /><br /><b>Anonymous (x2 above):</b><br /><br />Wow you're both very presumptuous and I sense a good deal of hate as well. Your minds are sick and negative. <b>Get a life and you'll start to read things with a more positive light</b>. I wouldnt have thought of things like that, much less make such presumptions...not even towards enemies I know in person.<br /><br />After coming out of a rut late 2008, many positive changes were made throughout 2009. Now (2010) I am very happy with where my life is heading at the moment. Financially, emotionally, socially and romantically. =)<br /><br />This blog stands testament to the the fact that I very rarely pass judgement on people online. Not even to people who pass judgement on me lol.<br /><br />In real life people who know me know that too. That said I am human and I do pass judgment sometimes...but not nearly as much as you two anyway =P<br /><br /><b>+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++</b><br /><br />I do not stereotype people. I am just saying what I observe in real life. I hold that the level of attractiveness (desirability) of an individual is dependent more on physical attributes more than many people would like to believe. The fact remains, FOR EXAMPLE, that women generally do not like men shorter than them.<br /><br />It's funny how you could say that at the dinner table or at the bar...everyone would say "like duh...".. But in the anonymous online world, some people seem desperate to disprove such observations.ezralimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-38823008407191079822010-06-04T16:38:39.022+08:002010-06-04T16:38:39.022+08:00Never let a girl dictate your position. If your gf...Never let a girl dictate your position. If your gf bluntly said she could do better, if you had any sense of confidence, it would not have affected you. But I'm glad you have changed for the better by buffing up and working hard in your studies. I have recently started gym too but my reasons are for my personal appearance. I wanna look good in suits! Lol. <br /><br />Just make sure you're doing this for yourself and not to get girls. That should be the right motivation. Otherwise, when you get hooked up, you'll probably end up not going to gym anymore, not studying as hard and end up a loser. <br />p/s: Getting a girls number in a line isn't useful if you don't use it. If a girl gives you her number, make sure you text her within 2 or 3 days. If not, just forget it. <br /><br />Some books I would recommend to you.<br /><br />Sperm Wars: Infidelity, Sexual Conflict and Other Bedroom Battle by Robin Baker (evolutionary biologist).<br /><br />The Game by Neil Strauss, pick up artist<br /><br />Persuasion by James Borg, psychologist<br /><br />I have read all three and believe me, it will change the way you view things. Its not as complicated as it may seem.Ganeshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12818152189939276755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-51796452526538295192010-06-04T16:38:23.430+08:002010-06-04T16:38:23.430+08:00"You will rarely see a pretty girl with a guy..."You will rarely see a pretty girl with a guy who is scrawny/obese or shorter than the girl" <br /><br />This is true but the in my opinion, the reasoning is different. A girl may not want to date an obese thinking that if he can't take care of his own body, what makes her think he would be able to take care of her? It is all about perception. An obese guy could be from a rich family with great education and yet not be able to get girls (I know a lot of dudes like this). <br /><br />Girls look for personality. Enough said. If you exude confidence when you speak, be arrogant and funny at the same time, thats all you need. Its all about influence.<br /><br />Being buff, successful is secondary to a woman when it comes to dating at young age. I've dated a lot of girls since I was 14 years old and believe me, all that matters is personality. I'm 21 now and in a relationship with a 23 year old girl who works at Towers Watson while I'm still studying. Doesn't that say much?<br /><br />However, at the same time, you are right about those factors. But it only applies when a woman is looking for a life long partner. It provides her security. Although, getting the girl by virtue of social dominance instead of pure attraction does not equate to a happy relationship. Heck, if she was attracted by a charmer at club, high chances of her cheating on her husband or would be husband. <br /><br />Wanna get a good impression? Next time you go to a club, bring along friends and make sure the girl boy ratio is 3:1. If possible, let the girls be average to hot. Believe me, other girls will notice you. You can sarge all you want. Always work from average girls to the hot ones (again, maintaining a good impression). I use this every time I go clubbing and it has not failed me once. I trust it won't fail you too.<br /><br />Though, I'm no longer in the game, I don't mind as I found an amazing girl which I'm together with for 2 and a half years. I believe yours will come alone too. Problem with attraction? Be cocky and humorous. Don't forget that. <br /><br />This story occurred when I was 17. There was this girl I've noticed who was in form 6 and I've never spoken to her before as there wasn't a right time to sarge. One time, during recess, I was walking at a slow pace and she was behind me (didn't know at that time). As she tried to walk past me, she accidentally brushed my shoulder to which I replied "if you want my number, you could just ask me". Bear in mind, I had a joking tone on. She then responded quite angrily as to how I came up with such a conclusion. I immediately calmed her down and told her not to get excited as I was joking. Soon after, I introduced myself got her name and simply told her I'm busy and need to go (I left without turning back). <br /><br />I knew that there would be further opportunities and I used that to my advantage. I maintained the cocky funny approach and asked her out one day. And yea, after that its history.Ganeshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12818152189939276755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-1476941263866540262009-11-19T11:32:30.469+08:002009-11-19T11:32:30.469+08:00Dear Hong Kong friend.
All i hear from you are at...<b>Dear Hong Kong friend.</b><br /><br />All i hear from you are attacks against my character. Hate the game, not the player. Constructive feedback is welcome.<br /><br />I have provoked rather angry responses in my comments on the very real social dynamics that pervade the game of love - for the role of attractiveness that is traditionally suppressed and considered minor is really more relevant than most people would like to believe.<br /><br />I've been called just about everything, ugly / unwanted / loser / fail / atheist(when i brought up darwinism) / etc /insert-negative-adjective-here / =P, usually by anonymous people who dont seem to have anything constructive to add to the conversation. I dont really care, and I wouldnt even moderate the comments posted on my personal blog. <b>It's quite pathetic really...for it was almost as if my writings have hurt them and they are venting their anger, but having no real points to counter my (rather hurtful) views on reality (losers and winners in the game of love / unattractive people being unwanted/unloved), they resort to ad hominems (personal attacks).</b><br /><br />Quick note that I do not pass judgment on anyone. I have not labelled anyone attractive or unattractive.<br /><br />Time will tell if I am a 'loser' or 'winner'. I know where I stand in the game of love and the game of life/career. Things are picking up, and I am not worried one bit. Just a year ago such comments would have driven me nuts, but not anymore. Friends and family, along with a decent social life means I no longer give a shit about what anonymous losers say about me online. They simply reflect the reality that many people find disturbing and hurtful to think of, as per bolded paragraph above.ezralimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-70239436320696536482009-11-19T10:57:51.188+08:002009-11-19T10:57:51.188+08:00quote: nobody wants bad genes that fail in life.
...quote: nobody wants bad genes that fail in life. <br /><br />i suppose if you define 'fail'ure as 'unwanted in a potential mate', i do certainly agree. (if im a female imagining myself confronted by you as a potential mate)<br /><br />however, if you define 'fail' as 'utterly unwanted by society', i say you are wrong. i dont think that your looks is a failure at all. society needs men like you ezra limm. <br /><br />to make the other men look good and make us realize, oh thank god ive got so-and-so and not ezra. so men like you really have a purpose in life. <br /><br />god bless you 09, ezraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-4568263068335521092009-11-16T16:01:23.950+08:002009-11-16T16:01:23.950+08:00Nobody judges nobody. But subconsciously at least,...<b>Nobody judges nobody.</b> But subconsciously at least, raw physical attractiveness DOES MATTER. It's built into our human nature. If a girl is approached by a loser who isnt worthy to father her children (loser in life, loser physically/frail, loser all the way), she will be creeped if said loser gives her romantic attention... even if said loser has the "nice"est personality in the world. What your conscious mind "judges" is irrelevant. <b>You may get along with the person well, but in the end you simply dont see him/her as a potential romantic partner.</b><br /><br />Nobody wants bad genes that fail in life.<br /><br /><b>I'd really like to say that raw physical attractiveness does not matter when it comes to romance... but it does.</b> I see it happening all around me.<br /><br />I choose to be open and point blank about it, rather than sugar coat it like so many other people saying that X and Y are "nice people". Empty compliments after rejecting someone romantically. eg. "you're a nice guy/girl, but you're not my type / im not good enough for you". IMO it's better to be blunt: "you're not good enough for me / i think i can do better". That would give the person impetus to change...and i have seen many people change more than I could have imagined.<br /><br />End of the day: Thrive and survive. Your body will show it, others will notice it, and you will not be an outcast in the game of love (ie. friend but never the lover)ezralimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-66015845752238605612009-10-11T11:45:58.189+08:002009-10-11T11:45:58.189+08:00Hahaha, so johnny bravo was right. It really is ab...Hahaha, so johnny bravo was right. It really is about the hair.<br /><br />Yeah, I'll probably get it done over summer. Gotta let it lengthen naturally first before getting it styled to give the stylist something to work with.ezralimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-78964761483991480962009-08-23T13:05:38.347+08:002009-08-23T13:05:38.347+08:00Ezra the only thing I have read from this thread i...Ezra the only thing I have read from this thread is your ignoring the one constructive suggestion that has been made: get your hair styled better. Just like you go to a gym to get good muscles you need to go to a good (asian) hair dresser to get your hair done. Neil Patrick Harris has stylists that turn him into Barney: you need them too. You could get muscles galore and I still wouldn't fuck you. Find your favourite Malaysian movie star about your age and print out the picture, take it into the hairdresser and say "make my hair like this" <br /><br />I know he is thai, but if you had hair like: <br />http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/e/e6/Mario_Maurer_at_6th_anniversary_of_Seventeen_Magazine.jpg<br /><br />Mario Maurer, lots more girls would want to fuck you. Asian hair really isn't that hard to stuff up but you put SO much product in it that you make yourself look ridiculous. Go to a hairdresser: ask questions. When it's done buy the product they use and try and recreate the look. take photos so you can do it perfectly. No hair should be shiny. No hair should be as short as yours was last time i saw you.j. nolannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-12333425760970364822009-06-13T21:48:22.900+08:002009-06-13T21:48:22.900+08:00Reading from books? Dude, I've never read ANY ...Reading from books? Dude, <b>I've never read ANY books on relationships.</b> I've never even read the famous Mars and Venus book. What I write is based mostly on experience, and i mean every word that I say.<br /><br />DONT PUT WORDS IN MY MOUTH.<br /><br /><b>Nobody is saying you need to be "tanked"/well_built to attract girls.</b> What I did say was that you must not be too physically deficient in order to stand a realistic chance with women whom you find attractive.<br /><br />A person who is thriving in life, eating well, sleeping well, and having lots of friends will not be physically deficient. Why? Because girls really dont like guys who are smaller/lighter than they are in the same way girls dont like guys who are shorter than they are.<br /><br />I used to be very frail with a BMI of 16, and I speak with experience and confidence when I say that: Girls talk/interact with me very differently after I overcame my eating disorder and put on over 20kg.<br /><br />Believe whatever makes you happy. That is my opinion and I stick to it. I agree that looks dont matter to women as much as it does to men, but heck, look around you. Open your eyes. Look at the attractive women. Look at the guys beside them. They will almost never be shorter/lighter/smaller than the girl.<br /><br />I rest my case.<br /><br /><br />Anyway, I'm glad that my blog has received publicity. All i can say is that feedback so far has been mixed. It is my subjective opinion that the feedback received so far conforms with The Pleasure Principle: http://ezralimm.blogspot.com/2008/12/pleasure-principle_24.html<br /><br />I've also received a surprising amount of support from friends and aquaintences...many of whom I was surprised to find read my blog :p<br /><br />Anonymous, you have your ideals and I respect that. But to use ad hominem rhetoric anonymously is seriously weak. If you're a guy, please grow some nuts and post with your real name. If you're a girl, well...stop being such a b1tch lol!<br /><br />Again: DONT PUT WORDS IN MY MOUTH.<br /><br /><br /><b>To Other Readers</b><br />I really dont understand why people assume things and put words in my mouth. I have a feeling that what I write may have hit some people where it hurts, and by attempting to discredit my views they feel better about themselves. I recently posted a new thread in the LYN forums. Before I even wrote the article, people were already making assumptions...that of course were entirely untrue and contrary to what I was talking about. WHen the article was penned, they had to shut up and to be honest it just made them look retarded.<br /><br /><br /><b>Anyone is welcome to challenge MY ideas. What I MYSELF actually wrote. Not what you think I wrote.</b> For the third time: Seriously ffs....DONT PUT WORDS IN MY MOUTH.ezralimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-88019764055543818972009-06-13T20:29:35.278+08:002009-06-13T20:29:35.278+08:00I never said you can't be dirty in front of wo...I never said you can't be dirty in front of women, my comments were based on your stereotypes and ideas on how girls think you're creepy just because you're not tanky. I think it's a horrible and unnecessary thing to be so two-faced when it comes to women. I have a boyfriend and regularly enjoy throwing around dirty jokes with him. I like south park and i like russel peters, all of my female friends do. Girls are not these fragile things that you have to hide the truth from. It sounds like ur saying that you can only get a girl to like u if u act differently to who u really are and look different.<br /><br />I'm not going to bother responding anymore so don't worry about how convenient it is that i am anonymous, i just thought you should know that reading from books won't necessarily give u the best idea on what girls are like. <br /><br />The only reason i'm reading this blog in the first place is because i have heard from numerous people how ridiculous and stupid this blog is and after being told for about the 50th time, i decided to check it out myself. I'm sorry to say they weren't lyingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-66268833915734520142009-06-13T20:00:20.027+08:002009-06-13T20:00:20.027+08:00Phew, COMMENT NO. #30 !!! Yeah. Lol, this has got ...Phew, COMMENT NO. #30 !!! Yeah. Lol, this has got to be one of the most controversial posts ever. Keep the comments flowing =D<br /><br />THe way I see it there are really two possibilities:<br />1) You really are someone who knows me.<br />2) You may be a poser...or even Michael Chu!<br /><br />Anyway, I'll assume that you really are someone who knows me. Look, I'm not a shy person by nature and I am pretty outgoing and open. I hope you realize that most of the things that you may have perceived as being dirty were actually in good faith and <b>humour</b>.<br /><br />I do not use dirty language or dirty jokes in front of women whom I am genuinely interested in (i cannot give names as this is a public blog). Those who know me well enough will testify to this. I am almost a different person =P ...all the south park jokes disappear and I avoid anything that may incriminate me in a negative light (nil sexist/racist jokes etc.). Yeah, I avoid Russel Peter style jokes as well.<br /><br />Btw Anonymous^ (June 13), I understand that you wish to remain unknown, but please use a nickname next time to make replying easier.<br /><br />Ideally, login with an OpenID account and use your real identity - that would give more credence to your words.ezralimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-29099819562327328572009-06-13T19:43:35.409+08:002009-06-13T19:43:35.409+08:00As a girl who has met you, i can safely say that t...As a girl who has met you, i can safely say that the only thing that creeped me out about you was your personality and now this blog.<br /><br />For the record, i know plenty of girls who chose the scrawny guy and i also know plenty of scrawny/less attractive guys who got the girl they wanted.<br /><br />Maybe you shouldn't knock the advice from others such as Michael Chu, who know what they're talking about and are currently in a relationship and therefore have more experience than you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-34108318273996523202009-04-20T05:27:00.000+08:002009-04-20T05:27:00.000+08:00totallytotallyezralimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-3730915767687745102009-04-18T15:52:00.000+08:002009-04-18T15:52:00.000+08:00if you don't use it, you lose it.
it's true.if you don't use it, you lose it. <br /><br />it's true.Michael chunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-10844545175120990002009-04-18T00:24:00.000+08:002009-04-18T00:24:00.000+08:00Hahaha... you really dont know me do you?
If you'...Hahaha... you really dont know me do you?<br /><br />If you've been reading my blog for awhile, you would probably notice that there are three things I dont talk about:<br />1) religion<br />2) politics<br />3) my 'experiences'<br /><br />...though I do reflect on what I've learnt here.ezralimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-64179271749432635672009-04-17T23:16:00.000+08:002009-04-17T23:16:00.000+08:00verdict is your inexperience brings you less chanc...verdict is your inexperience brings you less chances to get a girl.Michael Chunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-36634018382685913972009-04-16T10:32:00.001+08:002009-04-16T10:32:00.001+08:00==================================================...<B>========================================================<br />April 15, 2009 7:33 PM Anonymous said...<br />========================================================</B><B>Anonymous: </B><I>Haha how ridiculous of all your point of views.You're not that bad fugly looking at all, its average and just because your size you think that being buff is so important and blablabla im lazy to elaborate lol. verdict is your inexperience brings you less chances to get a girl.</I><BR><B>Ezra: </B>tl;dr summary: you're an idiot who obviously doesnt know what you are commenting on. <B>Nobody</B> said that "being buff is so important". Read the article properly.<br /><br />1) According to the blog post - relationships are based on EMPATHY and connectedness ("clicking").<br /><br />2) According to the blog post - A guy's build is only important if he is at the extremes of the scale. Ultimately, a decent body (<B>reasonably</B> buff. No, you dont have to be a supermodel) along with good manners, charm and social tact will make a guy desirable to girls. Confidence comes when a guy is thriving, with good nutrition, sleep and a healthy social circle - it cannot be faked.... and is simply easier to achieve when you are fit.<br /><br />It's not just about being buff.<br /><br /><B>tl;dr advice to guys: Be.teh.awesome.ftw!!111</B>ezralimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-32378337446622952102009-04-15T19:33:00.000+08:002009-04-15T19:33:00.000+08:00Haha how ridiculous of all your point of views.
Yo...Haha how ridiculous of all your point of views.<br />You're not that bad fugly looking at all, its average and just because your size you think that being buff is so important and blablabla im lazy to elaborate lol.<br />verdict is your inexperience brings you less chances to get a girl.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6237487.post-91263077262428853372009-04-09T15:22:00.000+08:002009-04-09T15:22:00.000+08:00==================================================...========================================================<BR/><B>April 9, 2009 12:33 PM Kakami said...</B><BR/>========================================================<BR/><B>Kakami: </B>haha thats a good one. Not passing judgment. The fact that you're making any assumptions at all means you have judgments. Its unavoidable.<BR/><B>Ezra: </B>I just re-read your past comments in this blog. Ok, let's not get caught up in semantics. I think you misunderstood the meaning of the phrase "passing judgment"...in the same way many people did not really understand the meaning of the term "sexist" (that really means gender-biased). <B>I think im starting to get an idea of what you are trying to say</B> - "passing judgment" isnt really a suitable phrase to express it.<BR/><BR/><I><B>I leave it to the readers of this thread to decide as to whether I had passed judgment on anyone.</B></I><BR/><BR/>The rest of the reply were mostly ad-hominems - I'm not going to respond to those as I dont want to start a flame war.<BR/><BR/>========================================================<BR/><B>April 9, 2009 2:48 PM Michael Chu said...</B><BR/>========================================================<BR/><B>Michael Chu: </B>You said asians have an average BMI of 19. so that means ppl are around 16 as well if u think about the bell curve. I've seen ppl with bmi of 16. They wear baggy clothes to cover it but they are THAT skinny. You're just looking way too much into it.<BR/><B>Ezra: </B>Huh? Healthy asian males between 20-25 have an average BMI of <B>22</B>, NOT 19. Healthy caucasian males (20-25yo) average around BMI24. I mentioned that on the streets of malaysia/singapore/hongkong, the THINNEST GUYS you see walking around have a BMI of about 19. Dont believe me? Ask them their weight and height and calculate it yourself (Weight[kg]/Height^2[m]). You will almost NEVER come across a guy (20-25yo) with a BMI of under 19. If you were in singapore, you even have to defer your National Service if you BMI is below 18 (no, they wont even accept you for clerical duties). An adult male (20yo+) having a BMI of under 16 is considered malnourished regardless of ethnicity, country or cultural background. I only occasionally see people with a BMI of under 18 in the wards - they are either anorexic, cachexic (2nd to cancer), or under palliative care.ezralimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07690909751771535829noreply@blogger.com