The Pleasure Principle

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What makes you feel good about yourself? Different people look to different things for pleasure. Of course, what pleasures are available to them is often determined by circumstance, yet as a person grows he/she has a certain amount of control over his/her destiny - and thus the pleasures that are available to him/her.

I contend that the pleasures available to a person determines the person's beliefs - for everyone will believe what makes them feel good about themselves. This is all fine and dandy in theory, but in the real world, people are not born equal. Some are rich; Some are poor; Some a beautiful; Some are ugly - To varying degrees of course.

This explains alot about what drives people to do what they do. When there is wealth, hedonistic pleasures are abundant. It is not surprising that in the first world, people tend to turn to hedonistic pleasures to feel good about themselves. It feels good to indulge yourself with worldly possessions and pastimes such as clubbing. When wealth is scarce, people have a tendency to turn to a belief system to feel good about themselves. Native people have ceremonies and rituals. Others turn to religion (whatever it may be) to give them a sense of purpose. It can be argued that religion does exist in the first world, but the reality is that when push comes to shove, people seek pleasure from hedonism and not religion - and that is where their allegence lies (despite technically having inherited a religion. no longer practiced of course). It's no coincidence that religion has been cast aside to funerals/marraiges and festive holidays in wealthy first world countries.

In the the game of love, the pleasure principle explains alot of what I have been experiencing. I am an honest person. When asked about why I go to the gym, my answer is as short and concise as possible - "to be more attractive to the girls...duh". I've been observing people's initial responses to that answer, and I have (subjectively) noticed a trend. Attractive/beautiful people's first response tends to be supportive (eg. "oh..that's wonderful"). Less-attractive people are less likely to do so. More importantly, the less attractive people are likely to give me a short lecture on why looks are not important (!). It was almost as if they took offence to my statement. Could it be that (physically) unattractive people are telling themselves that raw physical attractiveness is not as important as character/charm to feel good about themselves? It's a question that begs to be answered... As far as I know, girls are just as attracted by raw animal magnetism as guys. The girls that say they just want a sweet, nice, guy never realize that they only notice the "sweet, nice" characteristics of the guys with reasonably hot bodies. Similarly, guys tend to notice the good characteristics of the pretty girls. Many girls dont want to believe that raw physical attraction plays a key role in finding a partner, but in reality, how many couples (when they first met, early 20s) do you know of where the guy is both shorter and lighter than the girl? Ultimately girls do not notice the "nice" characteristics of guys who are both shorter and lighter than they are - and this is why physical build is important to a guy in the game of love.

I am not denying that character and cultural values also play a part in the game of love, but to deny the value of animal magnetism is to live a lie. Indeed, the attractive people are usually cautious and do mention that looks arent everything, after supporting my pursuit to increase my raw animal magnetism. The unattractive people often dont support my pursuit at all and they seem to hold strongly to the idea that they are somehow unaffected by raw animal magnetism - a belief/conviction (I contend) that makes them feel good about themselves.

4 Comments:

Titus Tang said...

Yep, quite true.

People that lack, say that "its not necessary" as a consolation.

But then again, that should be said with care as its quite a generalisation.

and yea, I agree that "girls are just as attracted...". We see less of it only because of the culture we live in.

Anonymous said...

"girls are just as attracted by raw animal magnetism as guys."

that's not true. Guys are most attracted to raw animal magnetism than girls. All you see is guys chasing after the pretty girls, that's why most couples you see are either

hot girl / hot guy
hot girl / less-hot-than-the-girl guy.

And all the hot guys are players.

You said you were 174cm, that's well above average for an asian guy and you're BMI is in normal range. It's better to have more lean muscle showing (more definition) than to weigh more (fat + muscle) with no definition. I know a guy who's about than 160cm tall who dated a pretty attractive girl. Physique is only part of it so please don't have the mentality that once you have a hot body, you'll instantly pick-up chicks easier.

From the other post: I was just browsing my friend's blog, I don't have one myself :) Wouldn't know how to right a blog but I do enjoy reading though :)

Anonymous said...

May I just comment on the last comment written dated "7:01, 25th of december"...who the hell reads blogs on christmas morning? Ezra....is that you commenting on your own prose? now THAT is the REAL question

ezralimm said...

If I remember correctly, it is the same person who posted comments in my other posts. He has gone by the alias anathema3 before.

My statcounter logs only go back so far and I cannot confirm this, but I think he is the repeat visitor from toronto.

I know he's from canada the same way I know _you_ are from the Alfred =)

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